Gender being a construct doesn’t mean you can’t willingly put yourself into that pre constructed idea, you can be whatever you like. It’s prescribing it to others that’s fucked up.

Thank you. That was the point I was trying to make. Anyone can be whatever they want. Categorizing others is the problem, and one that feels especially wrong for me to keep seeing come from the LGBTQIA+ and ally/adjacent communities (please don't nitpick me on terminology here, my point is that it seems to be coming from the people who I would expect to be better about this than other groups).