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Is it too late to develop a social life in your mid 20s if you never had one prior? (slrpnk.net)

submitted 17 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) by jerebear39@slrpnk.net to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I never had a social life, either romantic or platonic, and I'm wondering if anyone else has gone from 0 social life to an active one past college. Like I wasted college just going to classes and I graduated already. Thoughts?

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[–] Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

You start a social life many times on your life. The people around you will change many times, and your relationships will change as well.

Don't feel pushed to start a social life.

Also, it's a skill you will take time thlo learn and make lots of mistakes, don't worry, it's normal.

And don't look for others approval in general, ota just wrong, but perfectly normal to look for. Still wrong

[–] Admetus@sopuli.xyz 2 points 13 hours ago

I feel like the most important thing to take away here is to not feel pushed to have a social life. One city I lived in I had one friend I really considered a friend and the rest were mostly in the background (though fun to hang out with time to time).

For me a social life is enough if I find a single person who is capable of listening and rolls with bouncing ideas off each other.

May or may not apply to OP but zero social life sounds like they're an introvert.