Students say Brigham Young University is policing this behavior even more than its parent church does.
Brigham Young University administrators have put an explicit ban on “same-sex romantic behavior” in the school’s Honor Code, and students say it goes farther than the Mormon Church’s policy on same-sex relationships.
In 2020, BYU deleted a ban on “homosexual behavior” from the Honor Code, leading some LGBTQ+ students to celebrate. But soon afterward, the Church Educational System, which governs all the BYU campuses, clarified that the deletion didn’t mean “same-sex romantic behavior” was acceptable. Last month, it added the language prohibiting “same-sex romantic behavior” to the code.
“Though the ban had never really lost its effect, for some students the official restoration of it still felt like a gut punch,” Religion News Service reports.
The Honor Code tells BYU students to live “a chaste and virtuous life, including abstaining from sexual relations outside marriage between a man and a woman.” With the new language, it notes that “living a chaste and virtuous life also includes abstaining from same-sex romantic behavior.”
BYU is affiliated with the Mormon Church (officially known as the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints), which opposes same-sex relationships. The church won’t perform same-sex marriages and expects the faithful to refrain from sexual activity with members of the same gender. It also opposes gender transition, and church leaders have said that LGBTQ+ activism comes from Satan.
But some BYU students say certain LDS congregations look the other way when a member is dating someone of the same sex, while the college is policing dating relationships.
“Depending on where you are, who your religious leaders are, you can actually date people of the same sex with very little church repercussions,” BYU student Gracee Purcell, president of the RaYnbow Collective, a group for the college’s queer students and alumni, told Religion News Service. “At BYU, that usually gray line within the church is a hard line. Anything that they deem homosexual behavior, or same-sex romantic behavior, is not allowed.”
That “romantic behavior” could include dating, holding hands, or kissing. If a student engages in any of these, “as in years past, each situation will be handled on a case-by-case basis to help each student feel the love of the Savior and to encourage them to live their gospel covenants and university/college commitments,” says a list of BYU’s answers to frequently asked questions.
LGBTQ+ groups for BYU students and alums opposed the prohibition but said at least the school is being up front about its attitudes. “I’m just glad people can now finally see explicitly what’s happening,” Evelyn Telford, a vice president of Understanding Sexuality, Gender & Allyship, told the news service. “There’s no way to get around it that they are openly being discriminatory to queer students.” But it will make queer students feel more isolated and under scrutiny by others, she said.
The LGBTQ+ groups will continue doing their work, and the RaYnbow Collective will hold its annual off-campus Back-to-School Pride event in Provo, Utah, September 16. Provo is home to BYU’s main campus, and the school also has campuses in Idaho and Hawaii. Ensign College in Salt Lake City is governed by the Church Educational System as well.
Despite BYU’s anti-LGBTQ+ policies, queer students come to the university because of academics, family connections, or other reasons, Telford said. And some may not recognize they’re queer until they’re in college. That was the case with her, she said.
“It’s such a personal decision to be at BYU, and your sexuality shouldn’t mean you don’t deserve a place there,” she told Religion News Service.
Purcell added, “The lack of representation and the increase in religious and societal pressures won’t stop queer students from coming. But it will hurt them.”
If a religion said black people are a sin and should be avoided… and then started a school with rules banning any contact with black folks, would you treat it the same? Religious grounds, private school, just don’t go there?
Wait, isn't that just BYU 30 years ago?
Exactly. We figured it that wasn’t right then in the same way this isn’t right now.
I forgot what Christian school did it but they banned interracial dating for a while as well.
I would.
They certainly shouldn't be receiving taxpayer money, but if people want to go to a place like that then they should be allowed to. If it teaches the material relevant to their discipline in a satisfactory way, I don't see why accreditation agencies should look past that.
If you sit at a table with 10 Nazis, there are 11 Nazis at the table.
The paradox of tolerating the intolerant...
I don't understand how your scenario fits this situation.
Take everything Nazis believe. Now just say it’s a religion. Now they start a school to spread their beliefs.
According to you, that’s totally ok… hence the statement.
The paradox of tolerance to a T
Well first off, we're not talking about Nazis.
An accreditation agency shouldn't be the ones who dictate what is done by colleges beyond academics. They're not accrediting 'social acceptance.' They're accrediting academic merit.
"Yeah they have a great x program, but we're not going to accredit them because of their rules against same-sex PDA."
This is just you being upset that everyone isn't on board with censoring those you don't like.
What is the difference between discriminating against blacks or Jews or women vs discriminating against gay people?
Being gay is not a choice. Someone liking people of the same sex is no more controllable than you liking members of the opposite sex. Do you actively choose to like women and dislike men (or vice versa if you’re a women)? Are you saying someone could tell you something and somehow convince you to find men attractive?
This isn’t censoring an opinion, this is basic human rights.
Lol, I don't think you're arguing with the right person.
None of what you're telling me is new. You're just ignoring my point and saying something.
None of this has to do with academic merit, which is what accreditation agencies are for.
You brought up accreditation. I just asked if it should be allowed.
Here’s the theoretical: someone makes a religion based on Nazi values and makes a new school that teaches those values and enforces it too (so no Jews, Christians, gays, etc. and students and faculty cannot associate with said people).
Should that be allowed? I’m not asking if it should be accredited or not. Just should it be allowed. ie you are made ruler of the world and you get to decide if that should be accepted practices the the culture, values, and practices of the world you rule.
Should it be allowed, like, legally? Absolutely. As long as it isn't receiving public money, they should be able to conduct their private business with who they want.
Do I like it? No. But just because I don't like something doesn't mean it should be forbidden.
And there in lies the paradox of tolerance… which ultimately leads to the intolerant taking over.
So if a private university teaches proper math classes, and also has a mandatory training class on war and tactics for establishing a non-white ethnostate, you'd be cool with people going there?
Shit with you in charge, the Nazis just needed to provide good education in the concentration camps and it'd be above board, wouldn't it?
Sorry, I'm not going to entertain that hypothetical.
Keep believing what you want to believe. This has gotten old.