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It's kinda amazing how people are just so casually racist among people who they have more in common with than not, but skin color means so much more.
My mom was like that. Despite "having black friends" and all that rot, towards the end of her life after I moved out and left her homeless, she was so racist against POC. Like I distinctly remember the day my wife and I had stopped my and taken her to lunch out of pity, and we discussed her situation. At one point, when asked why she wasn't willing to try to get into public housing instead of living in a tent city, she told me she "didn't want to be a light in the dark."
If, unlike me at the time, you're baffled by what that means, she was saying she didn't want to live around black people. Despite having had black friends as roommates within the previous handful of years. I still played dumb and made her spell it out for me in crayon, because man is it fun to make 'not racist' people explain their racism in no uncertain terms and make them squirm as they try to dance around it.
I'm sorry to say it, but if your mom is living homeless, has the chance to not live homeless, but doesn't make the choice because of racism... I dunno, her situation is kind of deserved.
Preaching to the choir, friend. I knew she'd be homeless when I moved out, and still did it anyway. To add to the 'deserved situation' feeling, part of the reason I moved out was finding a shake and bake meth lab in the basement.
Racist people hate being racist without plausible deniability. If they're gonna say racist shit, make them say it loud and clear