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I think gamers as a whole, though specifically those in niche communities, need to take a long and hard look at themselves. We should celebrate the volunteers that create wonderful content for us, generally with no financial gain. Instead, commonly, there are communities that criticize and tear down every little thing they can think of. They even went as far as to doxx the poor woman. We need to be better, and we need to hold these kind of toxic trolls accountable. Especially those of us who are men, we have a responsibility to call out other men who mistreat women in the gaming industry, or gaming in general.

*Edit: I apologize if I insinuated that all gamers are guilty of this kind of behavior, that was not my intention at all. My sentiment is that many of us do not think about this kind of thing, and less are willing to speak out against their friends. We need to be better about that as a whole. I appreciate you as a person if you are already of this mindset.

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[–] Fuzzy_Red_Panda@lemm.ee 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don't disagree with you but I feel that it is important to recognize and call out the misogyny element in this story. The gaming community has a pervasive sexism problem that's normalized, and that part is unique in that it all comes from men.

I have only ever played three games online. The first was Final Fantasy XI, and I was part of a group/guild with nice people. It was fun!

The next was Team Fortress 2 because my husband wanted me to play with him. The vitriol and misogyny hurled at me over voice chat after two matches made me never play again.

The last was Destiny, and I turned off voice chat completely.

[–] WatDabney@sopuli.xyz -2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

but I feel that it is important to recognize and call out the misogyny element in this story

I don't.

I think that countering misogyny with misandry is rather obviously a losing strategy.

[–] Fuzzy_Red_Panda@lemm.ee 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

How was it countered with misandry?

[–] WatDabney@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 month ago

I don't want to hammer on this really, because I think you mean well, but...

You're not condemning the specific assholes who treated you poorly - you're condemning "men" generally. Your point and your focus isn't that they were assholes, but that they were men, as if that's the actual problem - as if their failure isn't being assholes, but simply being men.

I don't know if that's your actual view, but that is the way it comes across. And broadly, that view is part of the problem, since it alienates men who deserve no blame and diverts attention from those who do. And that's exactly what I meant when I said that countering misogyny with misandry is a poor strategy.