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[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 6 points 8 hours ago

I have often been asked if I have autism. They often seem ready to wonder this if it seems like a situation is approaching where I can't, in their eyes and their words, "read the room". The very concept "of reading the room", they then have to be told, plays out differently even on a cultural level. I am not of a common cultural background, and this is said to demonstrate itself in, say, seeing someone's arms crossed. I see crossed arms and, if anything, I'm going to assume "decision maker mode". They then ask "don't you see I'm angry".

For our sake, I'd be lying to say I don't operate based on "tell, don't show", which is the opposite of what others often say, which is supposed to be beneficial yet often gives off the opposite impression because people want to cling to the idea that assumptions are inherent. People often also complain about how complex yet semantically loose (owing to "culture", but at the same time I wonder why people, again, use their own expectations of verbal norms to assume what something must mean, instead of acknowledging dictionary-described words and sentences are just the word equivalent of mathematical equations) my communication is. Relevantly, that can be combined with my experiences with, ironically, people bashing me for not living up to their "unspoken directives" rather than gentility inspired by how I would say I expect logic to work, to produce the impression in me that maybe neurodivergent people are onto something with their sense of clockwork, placing me in what could be called autistic culture by nurture rather than nature, as is my calling when I'm told I'm only destined to rattle around in the realm of normal people. The neurotypical practice of succumbing to bias based on trained taboo and the infallibility of their dear ones (relevant among the gossipers) has done nothing except disillusion me in the presence of all who willingly exist without a striving for protocol clockwork, and if I had an ark, I would fill it with these neurodivergent people they say they fear.