Same. Those are the ones that will be with you til your dying day. I hate it when someone say forgive and forget. Forgiving is next to impossible when you can't forget, ever.

[–] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There's no reason to forgive either. That's for religous dogma. If a person does bad things to you, it's a done thing. Fuck that person. Cut toxicity out of your life. If u can. Period. Radical acceptance of the things you can't change anymore is the way. But Forgivness? Nope.

It really hurts to see people forgiving e.g. their parents for abuse/torture. It stopped being your parent at that moment. "mother" and "father" are titles to be earned, no rights to be giving by procreation.

[–] MehBlah@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago

I agree the whole forgive and forget was invented by the guilty.