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From your other replies it seems like you're unsure you want kids in any case, but if you do there's a simple thought experiment here: do you wish your father hadn't had you? If not, it's reasonable to think your children would be just as grateful to be alive as you are, sick dad or not.
Unless you're certain you want kids, don't have them. I love my little one, but it's not easy.
Kids deserve to have parents who can give them 100% and you do not want to live the rest of your life resenting them.
The positive for experiences dont equal out the negative experiences though. Negative experiences weigh more
But still, that would be weighed correctly in the question whether OP is glad their dad had them, the question isn't whether they haven't had happy memories