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One that comes to mind for me: "Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is not always true. Maybe even only half the time! Are there any phrases you tend to hear and shake your head at?

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[–] cordlesslamp@lemmy.today 29 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

"Boys will be boys"

How about you teach your kid how to behave and respect others so they don't grow up to be an entitled asshole.

[–] Matty_r@programming.dev 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I think this one just morphed over time to be misused to excuse poor behavior. I always took as like boys rough housing each other and mucking about or eating dirt etc.

[–] Smoogs@lemmy.world -4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Rough housing/mucking are container words. Blanket terms that can contain anything including dismissed sexual assault and other poor behaviour that influence children. This is the whole point of why umbrella terms like ‘boys will be boys’ is bad. It helps brush over the plethora of problems inside of these containers instead of address them directly.

[–] Matty_r@programming.dev 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Smoogs@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

-Said the abuser. When Grabbing towels and pinching penises in the boys locker room shit gets defended as ‘rough housing’ you sick fuck.

Especially considering the era in which ‘rough housing’ was coined. Layers of old, stale toxicity there, gramps.

[–] Matty_r@programming.dev 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

You've proven my initial comment. The term is misused and then people like yourself come along and perpetuate it's misuse.

Going from mucking around to abuse like there's not a hundred other perspectives and factors at play.

[–] Smoogs@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Right because misusing a fucking pathetic phrase that seems to be your hill to die on is the real take away here. Not the rampant toxic masculinity getting slipped under the radar.

You. You and your fucked up syntax fucking thinking like this are the problem with everything that’s gone wrong with the big picture items. You don’t give a shit about anyone but your little pet peeves. You just proved that you bring nothing to any table ever and do not ever intend to you impotent little narcissist.

[–] Mango@lemmy.world -2 points 3 weeks ago

I was taught about respect and consent, but I was also taught that women largely will not give me the same respect and there's no convincing the world to fix that.