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I have every reason to be unhappy and resentful, how not to be that? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) by Owell1984@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I recently heard a man say, you should not focus on things that make you sad. There are certain things in life that are always gonna suck, there will always be certain things which you can't change, there is no use worrying about them or hating them.

Unfortunately, I am in a system that handicaps human growth, you don't/can't grow up to your full potential when you live in systems like these. I can't leave anytime soon, and the hyper-realization that had I been in a better system that fosters growth, I won't be as miserable (emphasis on the as here) as I am here. I am hyperaware of certain things. Small things, they steal my mental peace, it can be someone honking incessantly on the streets or anything loud or unnecessary at any time of the day. Reddit shows me some weird stuff when I enter it and that distrubs my peace of mind! I have become very sensitive to these things.

I am sorrounded by all things negative in life, I have all the reason in the world to br resentful and ill-tempered, but resentment is a very dangerous thing, I don't want to be resentful. If I can't he happy here, I just want to be in peace! How can I do this? Venting about my situation helps but it's temporary and it seems to be doing more damage than good.

P.S.: Please don't start with how the American system is bad, it probably is, but there are worse things. I will literally be willing to lose a leg to get there. Also, might take sometime to reply, but I deeply appreciate your responses.

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[–] the_post_of_tom_joad@hexbear.net 2 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Sorry, I'm not quite sure what kind of help you are asking for. I do know one thing though:

Reddit shows me some weird stuff when I enter it and that distrubs my peace of mind!

You really should leave that place if you can. My experience is similar to yours, i also feel like crap after spending time there. Quitting that site and never looking back was a relief i hope you can share.

Unfortunately, I am in a system that handicaps human growth, you don't/can't grow up to your full potential when you live in systems like these

If you're talking about being surrounded by reminders of a system you hate, i can relate. Can you talk more about them without doxxing yourself? If that's not what you want to talk about, then maybe

I am hyperaware of certain things. Small things, they steal my mental peace, it can be someone honking incessantly on the streets or anything loud or unnecessary

Are you asking about help with anxiety and sensory overload issues? Cuz i can relate there too

[–] Owell1984@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 weeks ago

Sorry, I’m not quite sure what kind of help you are asking for. I do know one thing though:

somewhat like how to cope with this, i..e, I don't want these things to get to me. My life is in shambles and it's in a good part due to the lack of opportunities in my country and I know for a fact that it ain't gonna change anytime soon.

You really should leave that place if you can

I first used to think lemmy is kinda mehh! But this thing is much more peaceful than reddit!

Can you talk more about them without doxxing yourself?

I don't actually want to talk about it, but I have lost hope. I used to think things would get better when I was younger, but they never did. I see the desperation and resentment in my people and the things they do out of it. Resentment is never a good thing! Never! I have seen people delude themselves, live shitty lives for pennies in salary, I used to judge these people, but troubles started when I stopped judging them, I realized these were people just like you and me, if they were in a better system they would be doing some meaningful work and if not that, they would have money for their medical bills (it's much worse than US here, so no comparision)

It's not their fault, but their lives were destroyed, they don't live their lives to the fullest, they didn't reach their peak potential because of the system they are in. It's not their fault! This was my wakeup call! This made me sad beyond belief, I tbch miss the time I judged my people, but I can't go back.

sensory overload issues?

It's a part of a bigger problem, but yes, it would be amazing if I didn't fucking listen to all these machine noises 24/7

Huff.... It felt good to vent, haha... sorry, you helped by asking how you could help!