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What is an event that altered you in some way? (piefed.social)

submitted 1 month ago by cashmaggot@piefed.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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For better or worse. Small scale or large. Personal or shared. What is an event you've experienced that changed the way you act, live, feel, etc. It could be short-term or long. Share what you feel comfortable with. Triumphs and tragedies alike.

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[–] menemen@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

To add some positivity to all those sad stories: For me the most dramatic life changing event was the birth of my first child. Suddenly (okay, we knew for a few months, but it still feld like "suddenly") we weren't just a couple, we were a family.

100% the best thing in my life.

[–] cashmaggot@piefed.social 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I have heard, although you know - not happening here as far as I know, that the birth of your first child is a wonderful event that sort of cements you into this larger web of the magic and mysteries of life. I've had two friends who recently had births, one who is doing quite well and the other who is struggling. But the both of them seem to be happier overall with their decisions. And the one who is struggling sort of has this struggle with or without the babe. So we always knew it was a possibility and the best thing that I can say is that the awareness and the love have truly helped them navigate the space they're in.

Congratulations btw, I am glad you're happy =)

[–] menemen@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's been ten years and we've got two now, but I think you can still congratulate. :)

[–] cashmaggot@piefed.social 1 points 1 month ago

Hahaha! If I had em, two would be it. That'd be the number. Cause the first one can guide the second one, and the second one can guide the first one. But it's funny cause I've been watching Dr. Katz - and the thing is there's this guy who talks about having kids. He says the first one is life-changing. The second one, you're not sure if you can love them as much as the first and the truth is - you end up loving them almost as much and it's right there. Then the third one comes along...