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Probably meeting people. I'm not a very outgoing person and when I do go out my hobbies tend to be 100% males. I also don't use social media or dating apps. I have friends and relationships and I have no idea how I got them.
Its annoying because I feel like I have no agency I can't just go meet people when I want to. I have to live my life and trust that I will eventually meet someone which has held true so far.
It's a numbers game. Go to events where you are temporarily exposed to manageably sized batches of new people. One-time workshops and volunteering are great for this.