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First off, you are 21. Be okay with that. When I was 21 I definitely didn't have my shit together. It's a crap economy everywhere.
Take less classes. If you need to focus your studies, do so. It took me 4.5 years to get my 2 year degree. Finally got my driver's license, got a shitty car, and got a decent job in 2 weeks. Talk about hurry up and wait. I was 23.
Don't beat yourself up things will get better. I have friends that are in their late 30s/mid 40s that live with their parents. Not because they messed up, but they could never get ahead.
I had a teacher once say to me, "Aim for the moon, if you miss you will end up in the stars" It was accurate. Set lofty goals, sometimes with the expectation of failing. Take Retirement it's an odd example. I want to retire at 48. Will I? Fuck no. But is it a failure if I retire at 53?
I have OCD, Anxiety, Panic Disorder, Dyslexia, Sensory issues, Insomnia, Anemia, and heart issues. But I also was born stubborn. And being stubborn was a gift. Don't give up.
Woah.
Cock and Ball Torture??? You need different coaches. That took a wild turn.
Just in case you actually donβt know and that wasnβt a joke, CBT is also Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Okay, that I know little about then. Not that I know about Cock and Ball Torture either. I cannot offer advice there. I was just expecting the Internet to say off the wall Internet memes as the Internet does.
Thanks for this. This reality check has calmed me down and is motivating
Hit me up if you need to. I have no problems if you do so.
I get the impression that media tends to produce an unrealistic impression that people have their shit figured out by the time they're in their early 20's. I for one didn't.
I was 25 when I started my first proper career, and that was mostly just sheer luck and perfect timing. And it took me a few more years before I actually managed to get my shit together at the age of 29ish.