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Neurodivergence

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A community to unite neurodivergent people.

A common problem for neurodivergent people is being bullied and ostracized, not only by neurotypical people but also their fellow neurodiverse humans.

Sentences like "I'm glad I only have ADHD, not autism" or vice versa is very detrimental to our collective benefit. Therefore we believe that we should abolish any oppressive/stigmatizing language against other neurodivergent people.

Disclaimer: This is a nonviolent community and we don't want anyone dumping on other people, period. Be it neurotypicals/allistics, etc. We accept the occasional joke (like "allism, a common disease") to highlight the absurdity of pathologizing neurodivergence.

Our rules are vague because bad actors will circumvent clear cut rules just barely and grind the edge.

The rules

  1. No abusive language
  2. Stay on topic (no politics or religion)
  3. No slurs (including the R word)
  4. No isms (including but not limited to: Ageism, Racism, Apologism etc)
  5. No Advertising for profit (ND resources are ok if non profit)

Further rules will follow when deemed necessary.

If you have any questions, write me a message at https://lemmy.giftedmc.com/u/haui_lemmy

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How did you learn you were "different"? (lemmy.giftedmc.com)
submitted 3 months ago by haui_lemmy@lemmy.giftedmc.com to c/neurodivergence@lemmy.giftedmc.com
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This community is for people who have a special neuronal configuration and I'd like to hear how you discovered it. Were you told? By who? How did you take it? How is life today?

Here's my story:

I was only told by my mother that I'm smart but never anything else. She took me to a school psychologist for evaluation to decide what school form I should go to after elementary.

My teachers in elementary school thought I should go to a more basic school form but my mom was convinced I was too smart for that. So I went to sort of an advanced school. It was no problem intellectually but I became an outcast pretty much immediately. Had to switch schools later because of my social difficulties.

It took another 20 years for me to go out on my own and search for the reason why stuff wasnt working. Neither normal "desk" work nor "supervisor" positions worked really. When I went self employed, I found a spot for the first time.

When covid hit and I had to give up my company, I went digging for answers. "Gifted" was the first thing, but it wasnt the whole picture. When "Autistic" was added it all started making sense. Too much going on in the head to "be normal" but no social talent to actually make something out of myself in the corporate world.

Its an ongoing process of resolving trauma as much as possible and learning to live with what isnt resolvable. Explaining the process and situation to people, sometimes against opposition is not easy but all in all my life has become a lot healthier.

Thanks for reading. Have a good one!

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[–] Wandering_Uncertainty@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Thank you! That's really sweet, I appreciate it.

It's been a number of years, and I've found my way. Found someone truly amazing to get married to and she's done a lot to help me out. I still suck at making friends, but my wife helps bridge that gap.

Interestingly enough, tabletop roleplaying games, like dungeons and dragons, helped me more than anything else. I could practice different ways of interacting with people and get actual feedback on how I came across - people will criticize characters I'm pretending to be in a way that they won't for my real self. And it has lower stakes - if I screw up in that context, it doesn't matter. If I freeze and don't know what to do, I can just roll a die and make the problem go away.

I appreciate what you and your wife are doing. If it weren't for my wife, I'd probably really be in need of that sort of support. Thank you.

[–] haui_lemmy@lemmy.giftedmc.com 1 points 3 months ago

That sounds very nice! I‘m happy that you have support. Funnily enough, my wife and I play d&d as well and make new friends there.

You’re still invited to connect with the community or us if you want to share experiences.

Have a good one! :)