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Please be kind with me as I am new to this platform. I was at a club when a very handsome guy, totally my type, started dancing with me. I don't know what gave me the courage to take the half finished beer from his hand and take a sip of it without asking. I then gave his beer back to him, and he said he had to go but will be right back. It was an excuse to stop dancing with me since he just stayed put in his friend group without going anywhere. I've been feeling really bad after that happened and would have danced the night away with him if I could. And now I have no idea what his name or phone number is, just keep replaying that night in my mind.

What is your opinion on a woman taking a man's beer and having a sip without asking? Is it such an awful gesture that his sudden rejection was warranted? Was he angry, scared off, or just thought I was easy? I am not that type of person and had no ill intentions whatsoever. I just acted on natural impulse and was trying to be flirtatious. Thank you for any advice and comfort.

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[–] politicalcustard@beehaw.org 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

Some of the responses here have me laughing at how uptight they are. What you did was perfectly normal, he was rude and you're best off not thinking about him ever again. Fuck that guy!

[–] BarryZuckerkorn@beehaw.org 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I know, right? I think some of the answers in this thread are wild.

People are allowed to have their own hygiene boundaries, but some of the views in this thread seem fundamentally incompatible with dancing with other people.

[–] appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org 1 points 5 months ago

Hahah before this encounter happened, I really had no idea just how controversial this question could be. Now I know and hopefully it helps someone else out there as well

[–] appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Thank you for offering the more passionate support on this thread. I feel a lot better about it all after processing it some more. I totally agree it was the abrupt way he just dropped it that shocked me a little especially given how into our other interactions he seemed