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People who had a quarter-life crisis in their 20's, did you do right to stress? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Without going into too much detail...

21
Dropped out of Uni (ie. I've started falling behind 'the pack')
Still living with my parents (have lived alone for periods)
Frustrated, have been repeating the same mistakes and life is currently going in a loop.
Not fully settled on a specific career
Thinking of a couple of nuclear options I could try to move things on.

I want to know if I have reason to stress or if I should just give it time and enjoy the ride. Seeing as any sort of renewed degree-pursuing will eat up another several years starting anew from square one.

Edit: Thanks for all of this life advice everyone. It is genuinely really reassuring

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[–] rynzcycle@kbin.social 11 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm approaching 40 this year. Around 20, I missed an important uni deadline, and meant the degree I had planned would cost me an extra year I couldn't afford (like literally couldn't afford the tuition). Managed to finish, but with a degree no one would recommend. Was absolutely panicked.

Ultimately, ended up very successful in a job in a country on the other side of the world. Met the woman who is now my wife of 13 years, had some amazing adventures, moved to a few more different countries, changed industries again about 10 years ago, and worked my way up to upper management again before leaving that field too.

TL;DR No, stress has brought me nothing but misery, I have no regrets except that I didn't enjoy the ride as much as I could have.

Learn new stuff as you work, or as hobbies (my entire second career started as a hobby). Don't be afraid to "fake it till you make it" and keep an eye out for jobs you didn't even consider as a possibility. I personally avoid corporate gigs, smaller independent companies are more likely to notice you and use you for the skills you bring. Life can fly by, enjoy the ride.

[–] Scrath@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 11 months ago

What caused you to move to the other side of the world?

I think about moving away sometimes but I have quite strong roots where I am in terms of family and friends and I'm not sure how well I could handle leaving that behind and ending up alone somewhere