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People who had a quarter-life crisis in their 20's, did you do right to stress? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Without going into too much detail...

21
Dropped out of Uni (ie. I've started falling behind 'the pack')
Still living with my parents (have lived alone for periods)
Frustrated, have been repeating the same mistakes and life is currently going in a loop.
Not fully settled on a specific career
Thinking of a couple of nuclear options I could try to move things on.

I want to know if I have reason to stress or if I should just give it time and enjoy the ride. Seeing as any sort of renewed degree-pursuing will eat up another several years starting anew from square one.

Edit: Thanks for all of this life advice everyone. It is genuinely really reassuring

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[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 73 points 11 months ago (3 children)

I’m 29 and work with people in their 40’s and up. None of them have their shit together.

The idea that you must have a fully set career and planned life in your 20s is a conspiracy and a scam made to make you feel less-than and worse.

Beat em. Live life at the pace it comes to ya. Don’t think about where you should be. There is no should. Society is a game of dress up and everyone is a nervous ape that just wants be to loved.

[–] dan1101@lemm.ee 9 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Yeah the best thing I can say is play as much as you work but also be kind to your future self. Do things today to make your life better in the future. That can be anything from washing the dishes to starting a retirement account. I say start a retirement account because compound interest and decades until you retire is a powerful combination and no matter what you do, more money can usually help.

[–] caudatecoder@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

wow, that last sentence is pure poetry

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 1 points 11 months ago

tank u

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Thanks. Ugh, I wish my (grand)parents & surroundings realized this

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago

We’re all products of our environments. That’s just the environment they grew up in. It’s tough.