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[โ€“] RBWells@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

Having kids made me go back to college and get a better job (pell grant covered cost back then as we were poor as fuck). So that was probably #1. Without kids I would not have bothered so even though they are expensive it's been a net benefit bigger than any other single factor.

Leaving my deadbeat ex is a close second, though. Getting into a more functional relationship with someone who can and does hold down a job.