Yea, but being soft on myself also doesn't work, and I just lose my patience with myself real quick because it's annoying that I never get anything done.

[–] princess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 9 months ago (1 children)

if neither works then you might as well be kind to yourself, ne

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I Can't... :(

[–] princess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)

it's hard work! I struggle with it myself, everyday

here's a secret, though: you're good, actually, even if you don't Do Thing. I will believe this for you, even if your brain won't

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

thanks :(

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 9 months ago (2 children)

It's might sound kinda silly but one thing that helped me be kinder to myself was thinking about how I treat others

I'd never treat people I cared about how I was treating myself so trying to be as kind to myself as I was to others was the goal I set for myself

And overtime it became easier and easier to be kind to myself about my short comings

Yeah I may fail to do all the tasks I set out for myself today but I did accomplish somethings

It may even be little things some days and other days it's not a whole lot at all

But the kinder I was to myself the more I found myself able to do the things I set out to do

I still stumble some days but that's okay

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for these words. This is a smart point of view.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 9 months ago

I only wish I had learned it earlier in life

That would have helped me a lot over the years

So the next best thing is to help other people with it so that they don't have to suffer as long as I did

[–] Uiop@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 9 months ago

That reminds me of Rossmanns last video where he tells the story of how he discovered that he himself has also worth, especially compared to brokem apple computers.

[–] Pelicanen@sopuli.xyz 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I think the trick is to be kind to yourself but to try different methods to solve your issues until you find one that fits. For example, a lot of people are helped by just having a schedule beforehand, so that's generally one of the first things that get recommended.