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While I agree that feminism should support men, the guys who aren't capable of having friendships with other humans are just, for whatever reason, anti-social.
I'm a single guy in my mid forties. I have a huge social group and feel incredibly loved. Where this stigma came that men can't get therapy or can't cry or be affectionate with other men, I don't know. I've never experienced this. Possibly because, thanks to the rise of feminism, my single mother was able to raise me with a career where she was able to put in the work and climb the corporate ladder without a college education. I didn't have some dirt bag chauvinistic father raising me to treat women like meat. My father was a carpenter, an artist, and a poet. I learned the value of friendship and community and affection in my home. If someone's struggling with loneliness or their place in their community, I wouldn't blame feminism so much as their own family and inhibitions.
I think you're confusing "men" with "assholes". It doesn't matter what gender or sex you are, if you're a dick, you're not welcome and society is going to judge and punish you. In that sense, perhaps feminism has failed us in its support of all.