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[–] dakar@kbin.social 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Small tip: don't say "genuine asexuals" as if the ones that do masturbate aren't really asexuals. All asexuals are just as genuine and valid, don't gatekeep.

[–] AllonzeeLV@lemmy.world 12 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Fair, though I more meant the people who are effective asexuals because they were taught to be ashamed of sexuality in general and deny any sexual desire they have with vigorous effort to feel "pure."

That's a whole lot different than someone who just doesn't really have those impulses. The former is an act and they have my pity because of how such people are usually raised/abused to be in a constant state of conflict and hatred of their own impulses, the latter is a completely valid identity.

[–] joyjoy@lemm.ee 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

The correct term for that is sex-averse asexual.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 7 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Since we're correcting terminology, I'd stray away from saying "correct" term and tend more towards "currently accepted" term.

[–] EatYouWell@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

But, in all honesty, the term doesn't matter as long as it's understood and isn't used maliciously.