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OP doesn't mention their gender.
true, i made an assumption. either way, its yuck to date someone fresh out of HS if you're 10, 20, 30, 40+ years older. imo there's no reality where an 18 year old should be dating a 30 year old, even though it is legal
I think that if people are of an age where they can legally and ethically consent, and if there isn't any kind of abuse of power going on, it's none of my damn business. Maybe people should just fuck off with pushing their ideas about morality on other people.
im not pushing anything on anyone?? this is my opinion and i am allowed to have it, i'm not making any laws. i also agree with the other commenter that there's no way a relationship between a 30 year old and an 18 year old doesn't have an unbalanced maturity and power level dynamic. this is my opinion.
Some people are of the opinion that it's gross and immoral for two men to be romantically or sexually involved.
Some people think that anyone that doesn't identify with the gender they were born with is mentally ill and should be committed until they've come to their senses.
It's just, like, their opinion, man. Them expressing their opinion frequently, any time they see someone that might be gay or transgender isn't pushing their opinion, they're just expressing a belief.
I don't think you can date an 18 year old as a 30 year old without an automatic abuse of power. Even so, what does that say as the (middle aged) adult?
Take that to the logical conclusion, and no one can date anyone else because there's always some power imbalance. Oh, you're on track to graduate with a BS in 4 years? Sorry, it's unethical to date someone that's changed their major twice.
Given that I work and my wife does not, oh no!, I have too much power in the relationship because I'm the only one bringing in money!, so she can never consent to anything! Which kinda eliminates her autonomy.
By abuse of power, I mean someone that has a degree of power or authority over another person, such as a supervisor at work, a professor with one of their students, a cop (seriously, no one should ever date a cop, hard stop), a mentor and an intern, and so on. A 30yo that goes to the same gym as a 18yo has no power over that 18yo, and no direct way to coerce them into a relationship.
Wait, 30 is middle aged??
Nah gotta be between 500 and 1500 for middle age
Sure feels like it. I am so tired and my back hurts.
LOL
That's completely absurd. Age =/= Power :-D