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I'm gay.

My dad is not pleased with this fact. Completely homophobic.

Half the time his homophobia doesn't even make sense.

>Fishing show on TV in the living room
>Watching it with mom and dad
>Mom: "I don't have the patience for that kind of stuff
>Me: "It doesn't feel like too long when you're out there"
>Dad: "Time flies when you're a removed."
>Go to my room

It's getting ridiculous. He goes out of his way to respond to everything I do by calling me a removed.

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[–] eran_morad@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Yes, assaulting people always works wonders.

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 3 points 8 months ago

No, but in very narrow circumstances, controlled violence to back down continued abuse does work wonders.

People will only bully and abuse people they think they can get away with it towards. I'm those cases, controlled violence is an effective tool because it draws a firm boundary and expresses the consequences for crossing it.

Someone behaving like the "dad" in the story posted is only doing it because they think they can get away with it. That kind of person is very likely to back the fuck off when the son backs them the fuck off. Remember, they're already using the threat of violence in the posted scenario. The only realistic response to a threat of violence, when outside assistance via legal recourse isn't available, is shutting them the fuck down hard and fast.