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What exercises can I do to strengthen my willpower? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've realized that I'm very mentally weak and it's impacting my success.
I suspect I have ADHD and whenever I get an urge to distract myself, I rarely manage to resist it.
I think what I am missing is the residtance to discomfort that eg. allows sports people to carry on going even when their muscles are telling them to stop. Or the thing that allows people to defy themselves and step into an ice-cold shower.

Unfortunately I am not a person who enjoys sports and a cold shower is only something that makes sense once a day. Can you think of any exercises that I can do here and now in my room, and practice routinely that will strengthen my willpower so that I can better resist my urges in the future?

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[–] its_prolly_fine@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Get tested for ADHD. If you have it, start working with a therapist who specializes in ADHD and can prescribe medication if necessary.

Or the cheaper option drink a coffee. Did it make it easier to focus? Yes? Then ADHD, so drink lots of coffee. Lol, but seriously just get tested.

[–] Deuces@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Is the coffee thing real? I've been thinking about getting tested, but if the coffee thing is real I really should. I thought it helped everyone focus, though I recognize I drink a lot more than average

[–] its_prolly_fine@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Yes, for most people it makes them jittery. Similar to how Adderall makes nurotypical people manic/high. High caffeine intake is self medicating.

ADHD and ADD brains are functioning slower in parts, but this results in the typical symptoms of these disorders. So drugs that are "stimulants" bring the slow parts of the brain up to speed. In a typical brain these drugs over stimulate it.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Have you ever had this happen to you?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2fYg5hSgtug

I thought I was neurotypical but when I found out this wasn't normal I realized I must have ADHD.

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[–] Deuces@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh fuck me. I looked up how expensive it was to get tested earlier and was like na, not worth it, but that video fucked me up. I always thought I was just better at cleaning when I had a clean kitchen and did things in the right order... Which often involves a quick trip to the store...

[–] jandar_fett@lemmy.fmhy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So I don't know you or how much you make, but if you're an American and you make under a certain amount a year, Healthcare through the ACA can be very affordable. You will have to take time and look because it is convoluted as hell, but if you decide to, prioritize mental health services coverage and you can find some Silver plans that offer really affordable therapy. Mine is Bluecross Blue Shield and I pay $89 a month, but my therapy is free with no caps on how often i can go.

Hope this helps.

[–] Deuces@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Thanks man. I get insurance though the market but make enough that my healthcare is pretty sub par for $200/mo. I like to call it my "if I go into a comma, I won't wake up wishing I hadn't" insurance plan.