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[–] Lemmylefty@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Forgiving myself for feeling them.

Realizing that my emotional reaction is 1) human and 2) understandable and 3) a reaction, not an inevitability, can allow me to mentally (and physically, if necessary) step back. A sharp emotion is not yet a sharp word, and my initial reaction to a situation can be both normal and wrong, but I’m not locked in to that initial feeling. I can interpret and interrogate and change my mind.

It’s hardly easy to do that in high stress situations, but as a general rule it doesn’t help to fight high emotion with another high emotion like shame. Awareness of what causes them, knowing yourself and how you react and nurturing the patience to give yourself time and space to process can go a long way to making you feel less volatile.

[–] Karlos_Cantana@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I quit drinking. I've had anhedonia for several years now since I got sobe. I have no emotions except occasional anger, but it only lasts for a few seconds.

[–] arcrust@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Dude. Are you me? I'm 3 years sober and I'm still struggling to enjoy things. I find that I get angry/frustrated very easily.

I hope it goes away eventually, therapy seems to be helping.

[–] takoman@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

years of depression has a numbing effect 👍

[–] verity_kindle@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

EMDR therapy.

[–] nyakojiru@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 year ago (3 children)

It’s crazy but emotions are those things that CANT get lowered or hidden from ourselves … they will always find a way to go through . They are essentially what we are, the only thing I can think of to stop them is death.

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