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When I was a kid, I was punished excessively. My diagnosis occurred when I was 25. In the 1980s, I got paddled every day at school and was punished constantly. It made me feel rejected, leading to rejection sensitivity dysphoria. By the time I was 9, I decided life was not worth living and have not changed my mind at 45 years old. I would never have a child to suffer the way I did. I still feel like nobody wants me around. My mental health issues have severely impacted my quality of life. I'm just now figuring out that this might be why I have never felt my clock tick, or thought for even a second of my life that I wanted kids.

Has this happened to anyone else? I wonder how many in this forum might have decided against parenthood due to ADHD effects without realizing it.

Update: Here are the results as of June 12, 2025 ( or at least I think I counted decently):

  • 7 people do not want kids
  • 9 said they have and/or want kids
  • 3 responses did not conclude one way or another

Hope this was helpful, even with small sample sizes. This seems to be close to current statistics. Out of 16 who responded definitively, 7 did not want kids, which is 44%, compared to 47% shown in the statistics. This concludes that no evidence has been found from this post to suggest that ADHD has a significant impact on parenting desires. Further research could better validate the results.

And the share of U.S. adults younger than 50 without children who say they are unlikely to ever have kids rose 10 percentage points between 2018 and 2023 (from 37% to 47%), according to a Pew Research Center survey

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[–] pHr34kY@lemmy.world 32 points 5 days ago (5 children)

I didn't figure out I had ADHD until my kids started getting diagnosed with it. All 3 have it, and I swear they got it worse than I did.

But growing up was fucked. Getting punished and beaten on the daily while everyone around me was getting away with murder was frustrating to say the least.

[–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 5 days ago (4 children)

So you still wanted the kids? It didn't cause you to hesitate? I knew very early that I wouldn't have kids. Could be because my mother told us that kids ruin your life, though.

[–] pHr34kY@lemmy.world 18 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (3 children)

Yeah. They're great... but it feels like we're doing way more work than most parents. I feel that school bullying has had a 90% reduction since I was a kid and that's with my kids going to the same school I did.

The doctors told my wife that her biological clock was ticking way faster than most, so I had 3 kids by age 30. The doctors were a bit reluctant to give me the snip at 31 before they realised I was 3 kids deep already.

Congrats and good luck!

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