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[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 33 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Pretty sure you get slapped if you said this, and you'd deserve to get slapped.

[–] TheFriar@lemm.ee 40 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I mean, yes. A super weird thing to say to a stranger.

Buuut…there are just some people with the kind of—I believe the kids are calling it “rizz”—to get away with and win people over with things no one should ever say. I’m sure it’s a mixture of looks, confidence, the elusive “charm,” and also, yes, probably plenty of people taking offense still.

But, there are definitely people with the right mix of all that, plus a kindness about their aura/perception that can and definitely do say this kind of shit.

One of my buddies, for example. He’s over 50. But whatever it is, when we’re working, he does say shit like this to women passing on the street and the reaction is not at all unlike the one in the comic. I do not understand it. But ive seen it firsthand.

Dude is a chain smoker and is missing I think more teeth than he has left. I would love to possess this kind of natural ease people receive you with—hell, I’d settle for not being unapproachable. But hey, the cards you’re dealt, right?

[–] alquicksilver@lemmy.world 35 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I expect the delivery comes off as he isn't actually trying/wanting to sleep with any of them; it's nonthreatening, so people may be more receptive to his comments.

[–] usualsuspect191@lemmy.ca 23 points 3 days ago (1 children)

There's a certain disarming when it's from an old and harmless looking person; they aren't a physical threat and it's likely just a playful compliment with no intention to follow through. Because of this, it can go from creepy from a younger person, to cute/flattering from an older one. It's all about the context

[–] Entropywins@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago

The old ladies at the retirement home looked real innocent before they started grabbing my ass 20 years ago...not gonna lie the old British lady who would play with her pearl necklace after grabbing my ass was kinda adorable.

[–] nBodyProblem@lemmy.world 28 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Yeah I had an alcoholic, overweight, uncle in a leg brace who was like this. He’d try to “help” me get girls by suggesting I do things like this.

“Hey, look, that girl is cute, go ask all her friends to dance with you at once, then you can increase your odds because she thinks she has competition”

Yeah bro no. They’re clearly having a nice girls night out and I don’t want to ruin it

“Just say they look like donuts because they are all curves and sugar”

…. Yeah that’s a double hard no

sigh “you just gotta have confidence. Watch this.”

Then he’d wobble over, joke around, make some catcally comments on their looks, and they’d all be blushing and laughing before heading out with him to the dance floor. It was fucking wild.

[–] Sergio@slrpnk.net 0 points 3 days ago (1 children)

when we’re working, he does say shit like this to women passing on the street and the reaction is not at all unlike the one in the comic

That works until the one time that it doesn't, and then HR sets up a meeting and you never see him again.

[–] TheFriar@lemm.ee 11 points 3 days ago

Nah, we’re independent contractors and we work outside (in production). I’m not saying he can’t ever land in shit, but he’s not crossing any lines or anything. It’s just a thing that definitely makes a lot of people uncomfortable. If these people were to ever go to the production manager/producer/whoever, they wouldn’t really have much to say. “He said ‘hey there darling’ when I walked by!” I get that there are definitely legitimate complaints im regards to this kind of behavior, im just saying there’s not really a leg to stand on. He’s not coming across as creepy or overt, he’s just saying hi and being sweet. Still not cool for 99.9999% of people.