this post was submitted on 04 Dec 2024
844 points (98.3% liked)
Greentext
4610 readers
1479 users here now
This is a place to share greentexts and witness the confounding life of Anon. If you're new to the Greentext community, think of it as a sort of zoo with Anon as the main attraction.
Be warned:
- Anon is often crazy.
- Anon is often depressed.
- Anon frequently shares thoughts that are immature, offensive, or incomprehensible.
If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
(do people really get upset about this? Im asexual and cannot tell. Sometimes this kind of thing seems fake like why would you waste energy on this? But at the same time i am aromantic and asexual so i dont know. Im probably just weird or something and a "freak of nature" as some might say.)
Remove the romance element from it.
If the bottle spins, someone has to spend time in your company doing something you enjoy. You and your friends all agree. The bottle lands on you, and suddenly whatever it was you enjoy is not just "unenjoyable" but is actively repulsive to the other people. Ironically, I'd expect people to be repulsed by having to do half my hobbies, so this isn't a perfect reframing.
Apologies if I'm not being sensitive to your thought patterns. But there must be a way of reframing this that you can see why someone would be upset that their "friends" find them actively repulsive to even be around.
I think you've got a good approach. I'm not fully allosexual myself, but it seems to me the most painful part of this would be the loss of esteem. To be excluded from anything so blatantly...
People want to be liked. It means social safety, inclusion in a group. Sexuality is just one of its expressions.
(is it possible i just dont understand social stuff at all? I still dont get it. Maybe im just this damaged.)
Social stuff is hard for many people. I'd wager most people are not even consciously aware of social status, social transactions, etc. It's not something that is really taught, so it's no surprise when someone is blind to it.
But if you ever feel bad because of what someone said or did, it's possible you're subconsciously reacting to a threat to your status (import and safety within a group).
Why do you say you're damaged?
Stop putting your comments in parentheses
It makes sense to me as a parenthetical comment