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[โ€“] Chozo@fedia.io 15 points 2 months ago (10 children)

I didn't realize it at the time, but in hindsight, not getting diagnosed with ADHD was the hardest part for me. I guess at the time, there were still a lot of misconceptions about it, so my parents and teachers never recognized it for what it was. Because I was placed in a "gifted and talented" program when I was young, my slipping grades were just attributed to laziness instead of a disorder. That spiraled into many other problems in school; failing classes, getting into trouble, and several lifelong anxieties that still follow me many years later.

Honestly, my whole life would probably have gone in a much different direction if I had actually gotten the help I needed as a kid. I don't blame anybody for not recognizing it, but it does suck having slipped through the cracks like that.

[โ€“] Lost_My_Mind@piefed.social 2 points 2 months ago

No, no. Blame them. It's ok to realize that it's not your fault. As children, we're placed in the safe and lovkng hands of those that raise us.

And when those hands are not only unsafe, but also incompetent, it's perfectly natural to feel cheated at life.knowing that YOU are not the problem. Society picking those people to raise you is the problem.

It's the reason I don't have kids. I don't feel like I'd raise kids the right way. I don't want to ruin my kids life.

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