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Being fat is a choice the vast majority of the time, and I have a huge bias against big people.
I used to be fat (250ish lbs (110ish kg) at 5'8"ish (172ish cm)), and as much as I would like to blame my shit on anything else, the person feeding me, the person sitting at the computer for hours, the person actively avoiding all physical activity was me and no one else. After I got diagnosed with some weight related shit, I turned my entire life upside down, am at a much healthier 150 lbs (68ish kg), and feel so much better, both physically and mentally.
I'm aware of my bias, and I make every active effort to counter it in my actual dealings with bigger people. Especially because there are certain circumstances, however rarely, where it may not actually be their fault. But I'd be lying if I said my initial impression was anything except "God, what a lazy, fat fuck."
Edit: Added metric units
Sure.
But that doesn't mean go out and harass fat people. Trust me we fucking know. You can't lose weight instantly. Some of us may actually be working on it.
Also fat people have the right to be happy. People hating on "happy at any size" is just being assholes for the sake of it.
I don't believe that anybody deep down is happy at being fat. That's a lie and they know it.
Nobody I know who's lost weight has said they were happy with the Extra weight.
Oh I've actually been told by fat people that there's no way that I actually enjoy working out and that I'm forcing myself to go to the gym while not enjoying it.
Guess it's weird I like improving my physique and enjoying seeing how I can reach new goals ยฏ\_(ใ)_/ยฏ