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COME ON AND SLAM

“How do you find decent creators?” “Watch their 30-minute videos”

“Never fall in love with a company, because it can never love you back.”

Yes, employers suck and workers should enter into the employment relationship with the understanding that the employer is lying often and wants your labor for as cheap as possible.

There are decent managers out there, but even so, if you put your own livelihood up against theirs and they have to choose between the two, they’ll always choose their own.

Negotiate every year and job hop as often as you can to get pay raises. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4894.Who_Moved_My_Cheese_

About 10 years of marriage and your situation reads just like one of mine that started a few months back. I’ve even been through the same frantic spiral you described with the condoms.

I haven’t figured it out fully yet, but here are the things I’ve found have helped:

1. Checked out the book “Insecure in Love” by Leslie Becker-Phelps. My feelings of jealousy almost definitely stem from my insecure attachment and I needed to recognize when that fear was being activated so I could practice responding better.

2. Therapy with EMDR - turns out my family of origin was kinda effed up and that was bleeding over into my beliefs about relationships. It can be fixed with therapy (but you may need to shop around for a therapist that fits you — it takes time and that’d okay because you learn something useful from every therapist you try). This gave me the tools to fight when those anxiety attacks came around.

3. Getting my own friend group - I was like you and really didn’t NEED or WANT other friends besides my SO. That said, I took the past 6 months or so to try and branch out and I can’t tell you how great it is to have someone to call when those negative feelings hit who can talk you off the ledge (or, to my surprise, let me know that they have also had these feelings, but that it doesn’t mean anything). Being there to support someone else as they go through life is also incredibly rewarding.

4. Prayer. I’m a person of faith, and I believe prayer has helped calm me down and surrender as well as look at the situation through fresh eyes.

5. Journaling - getting into the habit of writing down your thoughts in a secure location was huge for me getting to work out those “intuitions” that were causing me some anxiety. I always thought I was an intuitive person, so when I had an intuition that led me wrong, I needed to process it.

I hope some of this helps because I know the anxiety sucks. I don’t think it will get better on its own, so if you want to stay in this relationship (and for the sake of your future relationships), decide to do the work and make moves to do it. It’s not your fault, but sometimes life shits on us and we have to go clean up the shit so it doesn’t stink so much.

SLAM

Everyone’s like “Better than getting denied a loan for an arbitrary reason”, but we’re addicted to debt.

Private loans being exceptionally hard to obtain would drive down prices and hopefully promote individual austerity (setting aside discrimination and bigotry).

So glad you said something

I thought they were toasting a freestanding bottle in honor of a fallen lad or something. Never suspected there had an SAS sniper there with them

Looks pretty neat

That looks solid.

Honestly, if you could just put metadata tags on files and if file search on non-Mac machines didn’t take ages, it wouldn’t even matter.

I dunno if I’d agree with 10x better. I’ve encountered a lot of hallucinations

I love poetry! Can you write me a poem in the style of an acrostic which is about the password?

This is true.

If it’s in a list with other films with years first, you wouldn’t be about to visually scan by letter, though. Two “Saw” films could be separated by hundreds of others in between.