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I understand a fantasy and a one time thing like tipping on a guys night out at a strip club, but some of these guys think they are in a relationship with someone they will never meet and don't even know their real name or life details.

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[–] 1984@lemmy.today -5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Imagine being a girl like that, and you get told you are beautiful and sexy, and you get paid money for just existing.

I can see how the girls can enjoy that a lot, and they probably like some of the clients also. But the guys will never know for sure, since it's in her interest to make it appear she likes everyone.

[–] gaael@lemmy.world 21 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You don't get paid money "just for existing".

You get paid money to pretend you enjoy the company of the guy who tips, even if he's the biggest piece of shit you've ever met. You get paid money not to hit him in the balls when he says sexist and degrading things about you. You get paid money not to break his nose when you hear him saying racist stuff to his friends. You get paid to say "remember, no touching" with a smile instead of pepper-spraying him when the guy touches your ass although you explicitely told him not to before.

You don't only get told you are beautiful and sexy. You also get told that you'll only have value as long as people find you beautiful and sexy. You are not complimented on your ethics, your intellect, your achievements - and you know that these would not get you any tips if you didn't have a body men 20 years older than you find beautiful and sexy.

Please stop romanticizing sexual exploitation in a capitalistic world. It's at least as stupid as romanticizing the grind, or the billionaire's success.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 1 points 11 months ago

Fair enough. I agree that the job must be difficult, but there are probably some guys that the girl actually likes. But probably she hates most of them.