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We definitely share basic values including political views, but there's also many things where our opinions differ. For example, we both strongly believe in supporting human rights for everyone, but we have different views on local planning reforms or diets. Some hobbies but not all hobbies and interests are shared, we listen to different music, etc. Overall, I really like it this way - we're different enough so I can always learn something new from her, but not so different we'd have arguments about basic values.
My wife and I are the same way. I don't understand her taste in music and she doesn't understand mine. I like different types of movies and TV, so we compromise. But nearly all of the important things like political views, childrearing, social views, and life goals match.
Oddly enough, we differ in religious views, but she's only lightly Methodist and I'm atheist, so it's not a crazy untenable difference.