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How to get over not having a good college experience? (slrpnk.net)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by jerebear39@slrpnk.net to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'm going into my last year of college and I kinda felt like I did college wrong. Like, my grades are good but everything else about college I failed at. Like socially and stuff, after 4 years I barely know anybody. I commuted(to avoid debt, and did so successfully) so maybe that's part of my problem.

But I feel college was supposed to be special time in your life and to me it has been indifferent. :/Thoughts?

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It depends what you mean by "get over it". You'll possibly never feel good about it. But that doesn't mean that a bad time has to keep causing you to have more bad times.

I look it this way. Bad times may be living rent free in my head and I may not have any luck evicting them. That means I'll run in to them from time to time in my mental hallways. What it doesn't mean though is that I have to drop in and visit them everyday on top of that

[–] jerebear39@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This is really great advice. Like everyone, I have gone through rough times before, I just need to chalk up this time as just another experience and memory and leave it as that. I dunno, I just feeling really down about it for some reason today. I'm going just try to build better memories going forward.