At first, absolutely. Very frustrating, kept feeling the pull back you-know-where. But then after a while, it became kind of a zen thing, if i'm using that word properly? It gives me time to breath a bit, rather than just doom scrolling at an increasing rate.
Maybe kind of part of the Lemmy Ritual? Maybe I'm strange.
Even the pre-iPhone ones were pretty crazy. He'd make you want to go out and buy the thing even if you didn't need it. I distinctively remember going and "finding" a beta of OSX before it was publicly released after seeing one of his first key notes back (I don't exactly remember why I was there, but I was). ["...It's Liquid- makes you want to lick it..."]
looking back, kind of scary really...
I found a used HP business small form factor i5 6th or 7th gen intel for very cheap, slapped a few SATA drives in the thing, and one of the M.2 Coral TPUs.
it is running 20-30% CPU load with 6 cameras on it - but they standard HD - I pumped one at 4k, and it loaded up much higher, so I scaled back to all 1080p or less. The TPU doesn't even hit 1% from what i've seen. I should probably load a better TFLite model. Nothing mission critical - mostly a novelty.
not the most power efficient setup.
There are lots of them out there.
For example passmark is one of many.
https://www.cpubenchmark.net/cpu_list.php
I just go find my CPU and use the number to compare to eBay listings. Is it perfect? No.
But it gives you an idea. Each site has some set of algorithms and they get a score for how quickly it can execute on that hardware.
Some of them they allow users to run their system and submit numbers so you get a better sense.
I've tried a few of the things you mention over the years.
However, I've lately gotten into the used business PCs. The performance of even a 6th get Intel CPU more than double an RPI4 or the ATOM in my NAS, depending on how you count. Sure, it's quite a bit more power, and they have their place (RPI in the garage), but I've gotten a few SFFs that have room for multiple HDs for like $50-$60 shipped, as long as i'm patient, since I don't care for the windows license.
The CPU benchmark sites are what convinced me that more SBCs was not the solution for me.
I also tell myself that i'm recycling what could have been ewaste otherwise. I am afraid to calculate the energy cost.
I had this same problem. I kept changing it in my instance setting on the website and pulling my hair out that it didn’t take.
I eventually found there was a separate setting in my app. Not intuitive but I got there.
Look for the alternate settings. Mine wasn’t even in the main client settings, it was the per instance setting, but in the client.
I might violate your top "ideal solution" checkmark, but I have a raspberry pi running Motion Project (https://motion-project.github.io) on site and it makes an easily viewable webpage-stream. My Rpi4 can handle 2-3 video streams, with motion detect-video-save, periodic snapshot, etc. etc.
Not for the feint of heart, but it is the way I solved a very similar problem. I'm using random mixed brand of IP Cams, whatever was cheap at the time.
lol. I love it.